But when he comes home she rolls over and is to afraid to tell him.) Can't find a better man, can't find a better man Also included is an archive containing a song database, current tour dates, past set lists, and other tour-related items. Album Ten. To me, it's about holding our loved ones close in this terrifying world, and gaining strength and grace from the love that you both share. ("She lies and says she's in love with him") She wants to get up the courage to leave him ("Tell him, take no more Becoming a ballad, "Better Man" starts with a sad melody but then goes o… Better Man (Un Homme Meilleur). Here ya go. Who needs to know") Debates like this over the meaning of a song are just testaments to the greatness of the lyrics and a big thank you to the songwriter ; Juan from Orlando, Fl the even flow is not of money, but of all the crazy thoughts in the homeless man's mind ; Joe from Tecumseh, Ok One of the best songs by Pearl Jam. “She lies and says she still loves him.” She truly did love him at one point but deep down she now knows there’s nothing lovable about this man. When he first performed this song live, he was very emotional, so this song really means a lot to him. Pearl Jam Lyrics, Songs, Albums And More at SongMeanings! I broke it down: The video and the song catapulted Pearl Jam into the next level of rock stardom, spearheading the grunge rock movement of the early 90s along with Nirvana and Soundgarden. first love, that doesn’t work out. (Waitin',watchin' the clock It's four o'clock, it's got to stop Tell him, take no more She practices her speech, as he opens the door She rolls over Pretends to sleep as he looks her over...) The first part of the song is the girl waiting for the guy she is in the relationship with to come home. (She tries to say that she loves him, and that maybe he still loves her even, but she can't keep kidding herself. “Can’t find a better man” is a lie that plays out in many ways. Al Weisel of Rolling Stone called the song a "haunting ballad about a woman trapped in a bad relationship." Produced by Pearl Jam & Rick Parashar. It’s about a woman who can’t find her way out of an abusive relationship. This song reminds me of my ol girlfriend, she was so beautiful .shr looked like christina applegate.georgous. From what I recall (which I could be wrong) Dave was reluctant to join the band at first, but right after he joined and became part of pearl jam, he very quickly added that tattoo... which I believe was part of PJ's imagery at that point. It's also very personal. var opts = { ("Talkin', to herself there's no one else Philadelphia Pennsylvania September 1 2000 ALBUM. Music video by Pearl Jam performing "Alive." Better Man Lyrics: Waitin', watchin' the clock, it's four o'clock, it's / Got to stop / Tell him, take no more, she practices her speech / As he opens the door, she rolls over... / Pretends to sleep Vedder had -- uncharacteristically -- even gotten into a barroom fight defending the band. Pearl Jam . Someone from her past that she let go, and made the wrong choice. The guy singing the song is telling the story of how unhappy she is and how she keeps lying to herself by saying she can't find a better man... She practices her speech, as he opens the door She is thinking about what she's going to say this time that might get through to him, since anything she's said before doesn't seem to work. Pearl Jam had so many great songs for ‘Ten’ that even the outtakes were better than most band’s best songs. She finally tries to leave, tells her self that she's done with him and his abuse, but deep down she can't escape.) She is 20 and has been dealing with him on and off for 3 years. She's been with a man for quite a while, but she doesn't really love him. song lyrics, song meanings, albums, music and more. Can’t find a better man.” She’s convinced herself she loves him because it hurts too much to accept the reality of what he is. And with this understanding in mind, the meanings of the … The telegrams were so distinct that many families didn't have to open them to know what they said. He was referring to his stepfather, Peter Mueller, a California attorney whom Vedder had long believed to be hi… Picture: Artwork Back in 1990, Pearl Jam guitarist Stone Gossard wrote the music for a song he entitled Dollar Short while he was still a member of the band Mother Love Bone. All lyrics provided for educational purposes only. ("Memories back when she was bold and strong And waiting for the world to, come along") She finally breaks up with him. “Better Man” is the eleventh track off Pearl Jam’s 1994 album Vitalogy. She’s still grasping onto the illusion of who she thought he was though and can’t quite let go yet. ") but she's not brave enough. In reference to the person who didn't understand why she couldn't find a better man.. The song was included on Pearl Jam's 2004 greatest hits album, Rearviewmirror (Greatest Hits 1991–2003) He knows he caused her pain but he's reassuring her that she'll one day be … It was intended for the song to be in Vs., but the band chose to put it on Vitalogy. There’s no one else who needs to know, she tells herself.” She’s hiding the abuse from friends and family. My favorite !!! Time for truth mate. “She feeds him” refers to him feeding off of her with his abuse. Pearl Jam Dance of the Clairvoyants. In a 1993 interview with the radio show Rockline, Vedder explained that the unusual title came to his mind because he was "Fed up with one word titles." Small towns fascinate me: You either struggle like hell to get out, to some people want to stay 'cause then they're the big fish in the small pond, and then others just kind of get stuck there. It has a lot of meaning of how man treats a woman and how weak a woman can be to abuse in all forms. This is why most women who leave abusive relationships will go back many times before they finally leave for good. I kicked her out 3 weeks ago and she tells me she wants to leave him, but it just isn't that easy. From what I recall (which I could be wrong) Dave was reluctant to join the band at first, but right after he joined and became part of pearl jam, he very quickly added that tattoo... which I believe was part of PJ's imagery at that point. She lies to herself that he’s a good man because it’s the … And how apparently it was much more tricky to end them than I would have thought. Eddie Vedder was still coming to terms with his "daddy issues" at the time the songs for "Ten" were being penned. She rolls over ("She rolls over I was drinking a lot late one night and that is how I interpreted this awesome song. She recalls a time when she was strong and and had the naive view of her world being perfect. “She dreams in color, she dreams in red. Download Pdf. He is aware of the fragility of their lives and that someday, his or … She feeds him. But the burden of Pearl Jam's popularity has fallen most solidly on Vedder, who spent much of his off-season wondering about the effects of being in such a high-profile band. Non-lyrical content copyright 1999-2021 SongMeanings, Javascript must be enabled for the correct page display. He's still doing the same damn thing. I believe it existed before Dave joined the band. I hope and pray she can get away from him. "Better Man" as written by Eddie Jerome Vedder, Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group. She pretends she's asleep so she doesn't have to deal with him or maybe say something that will start a fight. Good to know I'm not alone. Paroles de Better Man. I’ve always loved this song, but now it makes me cry when I listen to it because I know from personal experience how incredibly accurate it is of what it’s like to be in an abusive relationship. She used to be able to stand up for herself and she used to be happy. She rationalizes her inaction by claiming there is no one better out there for her. Waitin', watchin' the clock, it's four o'clock, it's got to stop Tell him, take no more, she practices her speech As he opens the door, she rolls over Pretends to sleep as he looks her over She lies and says she's in love with him, can't find a better man. Or more specifically, according to Eddie Vedder’s own explanation, it is about a person’s ‘first relationship’, i.e. Pretends to sleep as he looks her over.” She’s told herself that this is it, she’s going to end it. The meaning of music with bands such as Pearl Jam or Nirvana often gain popularity for their sound rather than the meaningful words. He is sucking the life out of her. Yeah you're right, as said before, he referred this song being about 'The Bastard that married my mom'. This is what Pearl Jam makes the best band in the world (one of) - They are real. Pretends to sleep as he looks her over She’s also had her self worth so destroyed by him that she now believes she truly can’t find a better man because she feels worthless and that no one else would want such a damaged woman. And waiting for the world to, come along But the damage of this relationship has left her broken/damaged and she believes she’s unable/unworthy.... can’t find a better man. Better Man lyrics. div_id: "cf_async_" + Math.floor((Math.random() * 999999999)) She's fed up with him staying out late, probably boozing and carrying on. She lacks the courage, strength and self-respect to end the relationship. And feed him lines that she loves him know and he'll come back again if I don't work out, Vedder has dedicated this to "The bastard who married my mother." Can't find a better man Better Man. Trying to be a better human. Memories back when she was bold and strong . She recalls back when she was young and ready to take on the world, but now she is broken, afraid and shuttered. She tries to tell herself that he really does love her.) Pearl Jam have spent the past few months looking back at their 20-year career, so it seemed like a good time to ask our readers about their favorite songs … Truthfully, this bastabrd has crushed her self esteem and dreams. Ten (1991) Ten is such a seminal release and left such an undeniable impact on the grunge genre … This song is about a woman. This song is somewhat of the male side of Better Man. She tells herself she is in love with him because it's just easier that way. Or more specifically, according to Eddie Vedder’s own explanation, it is about a person’s ‘first relationship’, i.e. “Wash” might have gotten more attention, but “Yellow Ledbetter” was the biggest hit of the ‘Ten’ era B-sides. Still, the slow-burn rocker has made Pearl Jam… Swears she knew it, now she swears he's gone Now she can't get out of the relationship she is in and pretends she is still in love. When I was a kid, my best friend and I used to listen to Pearl Jam. You can really jam to it, I do. It’s a ballad about a guy who has messed up, big time and lost his love. "Nothingman" is a song by the American rock band Pearl Jam. Yellow ledbetter. When "Better Man" was performed on VH1 Storytellers in 2006, Vedder introduced it as a song about "abusive relationships." /* TFP - lyricinterpretations */ Can't find a better man... songfacts Yea he's a federal agent now ,and contols her very much. 1-She lies and says she's in love with him (C) 1991 SONY BMG MUSIC ENTERTAINMENT#PearlJam #Alive #Vevo #Rock #VevoOfficial He needs to have somebody to abuse in order to feel powerful, and she is there to fill that role for him. ValleyFiah, you may want to revisit Pearl Jam, their last album is better than anything the white stripes or black keys have done. Before a performance of the song at Pearl Jam's show on April 3, 1994 in Atlanta at the Fox Theatre, Vedder clearly said "it's dedicated to the bastard that married my Momma." I'm always wary of Pearl Jam for romantic settings, as some songs that sound pretty can be very dark, but I think this song was perfect. Pearl Jam's Ten album. But at the end he says she cant have it end like that and she loves him so she will always keep coming back. Lead singer Eddie Vedder penned the song in high school. Can't find a better man... Love this song. Featuring lyrics written by vocalist Eddie Vedder and music by bassist Jeff Ament, "Nothingman" is the fifth track on the band's third studio album, Vitalogy (1994). Betterman “That song was written when I was just a kid, before I was in the group, and it was based on observations and things that I’d witnessed in regards to abusive relationships. The song was included on Pearl Jam's 2004 greatest hits album, Rearviewmirror (Greatest Hits 1991–2003) Love this song. That’s why she’ll be back again.” She’s put her whole soul into this relationship. Can’t find a better man.” Her dreams are her subconscious showing her how bleak her life has become. Then she goes back to the guy she's cheating with(guy singing song) and tells him that she's "in love" with the guy she is with and can't find a better man...hence doesn't leave the relationship. As he opens the door, she rolls over. artist: "Pearl Jam", She knows she deserves more yet feels obligated to her situation.... She can find a better man but her excuse is she just can't find a better man . And with this understanding in mind, the meanings of the metaphors used throughout become quite evident. This is almost exactly how I feel. She feels responsible for him, she worries about him. She’s anxiously waiting for him to get home so she can tell him, but by the time he does she’s lost her nerve. Can't find a better man, can't find a better man") She doesn't let anyone else know that she doesn't love him. She lies and says she still loves him It's four o'clock, it's got to stop This song has her wrote all over it. Jack from Queens, Ny Even though I'm not a big Pearl Jam fan and haven't read or seen that many interviews that might reveal Vedder's insight into the song, my interpretation is that the song is about the singer's experience with women, and that the first verse is about the mother and the second verse is about the girl who took the singer's virginity (not the mother). The band's official site which contains current news, fan club membership information, merchandise, links to causes the band supports, a discography and a comprehensive timeline for the band and its past and current members. We have 34 albums and 298 song lyrics in our database. Pearl Jam. After 27 years, Eddie Vedder finally revealed the emotional story behind “Even Flow” at Pearl Jam’s show at Safeco Field in Seattle on Wednesday, according to … Featuring lyrics written by vocalist Eddie Vedder and music by bassist Jeff Ament, "Nothingman" is the fifth track on the band's third studio album, Vitalogy (1994). Saw the song this year in Portugal and what Ed says before the song, it pretty describes it, also feel that in Black improv and other songs which are like pieces completing the mosaic during the whole concert. It's pretty much because he's so traditionally *perfect* for her. Then when he gets home and opens the door she pretends to sleep because she doesn't have the courage to tell him she wants out of the relationship. This Pearl Jam classic is about unrequited love. Songfacts®: Eddie Vedder wrote this before joining Pearl Jam while he was still in his teens. Thanks to the incredible material that they have both forged over recent decades, the two singers have become two of the biggest names in American music. (The woman in the story is possibly being abused by her husband. Leadbeater, a member of the theosophical society (better understanding of ones self & ones place in the universe) whos teachings emphasized the power & use of thought and above mentioned withing brackets. If there is any meaning to the lyrics I think the letter in the beginning of the song refers to the telegrams that we sent to the families of soldiers KIA in WWII. Pearl Jam is the band's turf statement, a personal declaration of the importance of music over idolatry. I take it as she's practicing her lies and she doesn't want him to move on and find someone else while she's doing her own thing and has interest in someone waiting for that to work out but until then she strings him along. With that in mind, when the two iconic figures shared the stage in 2004 it was a moment for the history books. She lies to the outside world that she “can’t find a better man” and that he’s a good guy because she’s ashamed of the abuse. "Yellow Ledbetter" is a song by the American grunge band Pearl Jam.Featuring lyrics written by vocalist Eddie Vedder and music co-written by bassist Jeff Ament and guitarist Mike McCready, "Yellow Ledbetter" was an outtake from the band's debut album, Ten (1991). I sent it to this morning, after I heard it. In fact, one of the first concerts I had ever gone to was a pearl jam concert when I was about ten years old. Before I found out lead singer, Eddie Vedder wrote this song for his mother who was abused by her husband, his step father. She don't want to leave this way first love, that doesn’t work out. Pearl Jam - Better Man. That's why she'll be back again Written between soundchecks on the Vs. tour and at a low ebb of band morale, Vitalogy (meaning “the study of life”) is the deepest, dankest, strangest album Pearl Jam ever made. She was great, and she thought he was everything. I have been through this and this song describes the psychology of it perfectly. Author Date within 1 day 3 days 1 week 2 weeks 1 month 2 months 6 months 1 year of Examples: Monday, today, last week, Mar 26, 3/26/04 She, tells herself, oh... Ohh But he knows it was supposed to be him & her. Talkin', to herself there's no one else but she was in love with her old boyfriend..she used to listen to this song back in highschool over and over. “She lies and says she’s in love with him. }; We have an official Better Man tab made by UG professional guitarists. This is about a woman who settles for the man she has because she doesn't think she can do any better. Who needs to know So are we. It's a recurring theme in his songs, especially the first three Pearl Jam albums. Pearl Jam. I know from experience and the lyrics it's self can speak of what I experienced and now I'm happy to be out of that relationship & marriage!!!! About a man that is very happy with his life (I can get over Whelmed by the grace, by which we live our lives) that he is afraid of losing his wife, either by her death or his own, in which case, she might end up with a new man/husband. My interpretation is that this woman has not had a good life and kind of fell in a situation with this man who is not terrible but certainly does not treat her well. Somewhere deep inside her she still has life in her, but he’s draining it out of her day by day. “Talking to herself. Waitin', watchin' the clock, it's four o'clock, it's got to stop, tell him - take no more, she practices her speech, as he opens the door, she rolls over, ValleyFiah October 10, 2010 . The This Pearl Jam classic is about unrequited love. She can’t wrap her mind around how this man she thought she knew has become such a monster and turned her into this weak version of herself. She's a "stone cold hero" says director Josh Wakely. (rpt 1) She dreams in color, she dreams in red document.write('');var c=function(){cf.showAsyncAd(opts)};if(typeof window.cf !== 'undefined')c();else{cf_async=!0;var r=document.createElement("script"),s=document.getElementsByTagName("script")[0];r.async=!0;r.src="//srv.clickfuse.com/showads/showad.js";r.readyState?r.onreadystatechange=function(){if("loaded"==r.readyState||"complete"==r.readyState)r.onreadystatechange=null,c()}:r.onload=c;s.parentNode.insertBefore(r,s)}; She tells herself that she's finally going to tell him off. I believe it existed before Dave joined the band. That she needs him despite his abuse. "Better Man" is the eleventh song of Vitalogy, the third album of Pearl Jam.The song was written by Eddie Vedder before his entry in the band, and was released first when the vocalist was in the same role for his former band Bad Radio.Besides, the song changed its style to fit on Pearl Jam's way. Yellow- Highest Intellect. The abuse is so psychologically damaging that the person being abused can become addicted to their abuser and to the abuse cycle. Create an account with SongMeanings to post comments, submit lyrics, and more. So every time he hears children's laughter it reminds him what he gave up & what he could have, should have had. Yeah, you got it pretty right. Pearl Jam – Better Man Lyrics from album: Vitalogy (1994) Waitin', watchin' the clock, it's four o'clock, it's got to stop Twisted thoughts become Bitter. When she dreams in red it's because she knows in her heart he has done her wrong in so many ways. day_shaman Sorry Ed. (She's still trying to convince herself that he'll change and that she loves him..but she's holding on to a false hope.) An i know she was thinking of her boyfriend at the time...well lomg story short..she ended up marring him years later..now were all 35 years old..i look back at there relationship as somewhat abusive menally.i think its sad she had to settle for him..ehen she deserved so much better. Their lyrics are completely metaphorical and sometimes elusive. “ Vitalogy was a little strained,” Brendan O’Brien remembered in the 2011 book Everybody Loves Our Town: An Oral History of Grunge . View Pearl Jam song lyrics by popularity along with songs featured in, albums, videos and song meanings. The abuser has her fully convinced that she can’t live without him, even though she’s miserable being with him. “Can’t find a better man” is a lie that plays out in many ways. Wish she knew how much shes worth..also she turned very bitter to the world..when i look back i remember her before the world turned her so cold. Song meanings ©2003-2021 lyricinterpretations.com. ("She loved him, yeah... She don't want to leave this way She feeds him,yeah That's why she'll be back again"). (She keeps the abuse to herself and can't even tell family or friends.) She lies to the outside world that she “can’t find a better man” and that he’s a good guy because she’s ashamed of the abuse. Then at the end of the song the singer says, "She lies and says she still loves him...She loved him, yeah...She don't want to leave this way. Tell him, take no more, she practices her speech. She practices her speech, as he opens the door Picture: Artwork Back in 1990, Pearl Jam guitarist Stone Gossard wrote the music for a song he entitled Dollar Short while he was still a … Written long before Vedder enter on Pearl Jam, "Better Man" was first played when he was the vocalist of Bad Radio, a funk rock group influenced by Red Hot Chilli Peppers. "Nothingman" is a song by the American rock band Pearl Jam. Pearl Jam's "Retrograde" video features teen climate change activist Greta Thunberg. Tonebridge. ("now she swears he's gone") She feels bad, so she'll get back with him, because she feels that he needs her. She's going to one day meet another man & she'll be the star in his eyes e& they'll have kids & create a family together. I read that Eddie wrote this about his own mother, because she was in an abusive relationship and didn't really have power to do anything about it. She keeps his abusiveness to herself saying that no one needs to know.... (C) 1991 SONY BMG MUSIC ENTERTAINMENT#PearlJam #Alive #Vevo #Rock #VevoOfficial Pearl Jam song meanings and interpretations with user discussion. During the last election it seemed to take on a political bent. “Pearl Jam - Better Man” Testing out my new Orangewood acoustic @orangewoodguitars and I’m liking the tone. She dreams of killing him. Pearl Jam – Better Man Lyrics from album: Vitalogy (1994) Waitin', watchin' the clock, it's four o'clock, it's got to stop It’s super easy, we promise! 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